Caleb and I are blessed and cursed all at the same time. We don’t really fit into any little box very well, but then that also means we got to make our own.
See, neither one of us works a Monday through Friday 9-5 job. I work from home (Monday through Friday yes), but being at home provides flexibility with running errands and you know taking care of that little baby. It also means sometimes working Saturday, Sunday and then Monday through Friday again.
Caleb works full-time Friday through Sunday, yes a 40 hour work week in 3 days. He’s my hero. Anyways, this means we never get lumped in with the working parents that have daycare (um yes we work 80+ hours too!) or the stay at home mommies and daddies (yup this is us too! Caleb is home and in charge when I work and can’t help out all week and I’m full-time mommy during the weekend). No one wants to claim us.
Sometimes it’s hard because we don’t always have the weekend to be a family, but we get the weekdays. Having a social life is pretty much gone lately (who am I kidding, did it ever exist?!) Being a stay at home daddy isn’t uncommon, but let me tell you – he gets looks. Come on society! Trying to be in a mommy group? Fat chance. Stay at home mommies don’t get the guilt of “just one more email” and working moms don’t always fully understand the toll of only talking to little people days on end.
But it works and for now I don’t think either of us would change it. We get to do things so many other parents only wish for! Grocery shop together Tuesday mornings when no one besides the employees are there? Heavenly. Or pick up the kiddos when they’re sick at school with ZERO guilt? You wish, I know. Or have a healthy delicious home-made family dinner every night of the week? This does actually happen.
So it’s a balance. Win some and lose some. A lot of give. A lot of gain. But isn’t that what parenting and life is all about?
Where do you fit? Stay at home mom? Work alcoholic and best thing ever for your family? Or do you, just like us, blur those lines and it’s all about the best fit? Let us know, we love knowing we aren’t alone in our chaos!