I’ve got a cup of coffee all warmed and ready to go. The weather has been gorgeous lately so I should migrate my go to drink to summer iced teas, but I was ready for something to warm my soul. What are you having this lovely day? Coffee, tea, water? Let’s chat.
If we were having coffee, I’d tell you Caleb and I decided not to head to Aruba this summer. He’s been saving since we met and without a “proper honeymoon”, this trip has really been something we’ve been dreaming of. So why not go? Well amongst our busy life there was one week, yes only ONE, we felt like we could leave and the kids didn’t have to be driven to a million places. But the closer we got, the more we realized that they aren’t in a place for us to leave. I could give you a million reasons, but we know our kids and it just wasn’t right. Are we disappointed? Oh heck yea. But we also know it’s best, for now. My thoughts were really well explained (by someone else!) here.
Ultimately I want to escape with Caleb for a week or so with a drink in one hand and his hand in the other and not WORRY if my kids are ok. I want to give him the time that he deserves and I knew it wouldn’t be in August. So we decided to postpone our trip till maybe next year.
How about you? How do you manage grown up trips? I know they’re oh so important for a marriage, plus I sure love that man and our grown up time.
If we were having coffee, I’d ask how you keep things fair between kids. I’ve been struggling with this so much lately. We attempt at making it fair and equal, but not only is it incredibly hard sometimes it’s just not realistic or plausible. There are so many outside forces that affect our decisions and family, it’s just been tough and I NEVER want someone feeling like they didn’t get what they need. I’d take any suggestions you’ve got!
If we were having coffee, I’d talk about a revelation I had the other day about Carson and Ava living in two homes. I’d read an article (I wish I could find the link grr!) about how divorced families tend to think their house is the children’s “home”.
It got me thinking. That is 100% the way I
feel felt: “this is their home and they just go visit Mom“. Guilty as charged. I continued to evaluate my thinking about how I assume our house is “the good house”, but the more I thought the more I realized both homes have good and both homes probably have some bad. It’s really helped change my thoughts to things more positive, a goal I always shoot for.
If we were having coffee, I once again stayed too long and talked too much. We are having company tonight and I still have to prep food and clean. Wish me luck!
Soooo nice chatting with you today! I hope you have a wonderful Monday and week! Bring it on!